SPF 049: The Social Media Battle with Guest Laura Ferguson

It’s no secret I love the Instagram. I love the pictures, I love the stories, I love the likes. Smart phones and social medial platforms have been inserted into our daily routines. They make life better in so many ways, but there are some heart level issues when it comes to our social media usage. Today I talk with guest, Laura Ferguson about some red flags to look out for on social media and six boundaries for ambassadors of Christ. 

Some of my Favorite Take-Aways

  • Often we want to know that we are chosen in others areas, by other people, when being chosen by God is what will really satisfy.
  • Social media can lead to a distracted mind rather than a sound mind.
  • Before we are filled with other people's words (on social media), let's be filled with God's Words and be like the mighty and strong tree in Psalm 1

Six Boundaries for Ambassadors of Christ

Laura came up with six boundaries that we can implement to help our hearts severe ties with a need for social media. Social media isn't inherently good or bad, it's a tool, but can sometimes become an idol. When you notice your heart strings singing for Instagram or to be noticed and liked by others to validate you, take a look at some of these boundaries:

  1. Set limits on the times of day you use social media
  2. Utilize the privacy feature to shut down notifications at certain times of the day
  3. Protect your purity when it comes to who you follow
  4. Honor your husband with your social media usage
  5. Never choose your phone over your kids
  6. Get time with the Lord before you get time with social media

Recommended Resources

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12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You - Reinke

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About Laura

Laura lives in Minnesota with her hunky Canadian husband and two children, Malachi and Hazel. She loves talking about the Lord, singing about the Lord, and contemplating the every day happenings of her life with the Lord. She loves coffee and is an extroverted introvert and loves instilling God's truth into the lives of women. You can learn more about her HERE.

Read more about her social media fast on her blog: Life with the Fergusons

SPF 048: Dealing with Sin in Our Children - Part 2

God graciously gives parents biblical means to accomplish biblical goals - and that includes dealing with sin in our children. Today we are covering a few biblical methods that truly get to the heart of of the matter. This is part two in a two part series. 

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Dealing With Sin in our Children - The Means (i.e. Methods)

We need biblical approaches to accomplish biblical goals.

What’s our biblical goal? That our children might know the living God, repent of their sins and walk in obedience to His ways.

Psalm 78:5-7 "He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers to teach to their children, that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and arise and tell them to their children, so that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments"

MEANS NO. 1

The first means God gives us to deal with sin in our children is by giving us Authority as parents

- honor your father and your mother

- Exodus 20:12, Deut 5:16, Ephesians 6:1-3

Parents maintain their authority over their children by

- first fearing God - showing that there is a higher Authority than themselves.

- repenting and being humble when we sin

- We need to not be lazy or complacent and diligently lead our children in instruction of God’s Word, but also in correcting them and disciplining them when the sin. 

MEANS NO. 2

Another means God gives us in dealing with sin in our children is correction and discipline.

Proverbs 13:1 A wise son hears his father's instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.

- when we teach them the law of God and they disobey the law of God our discipline of their choices show them there is a big Authority - the ultimate Authority to whom we are accountable to - in our discipline of their sin we teach them that there are consequences to sin.

- Proverbs 29:15, 17 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.

MEANS NO. 3

“As parents we need to be giving our children a worldview, an understand of themselves as creatures that’s large enough to support the things we say to them during our times of correction and discipline.”  Tedd Tripp Instructing a Child's Heart

-Scripture is our personal history.

-Teach Children to develop Godly habits that reflect the truth.

- Apply Scripture to everyday life.

- Model spiritual vitality for our children.

- Grow in to a mature relationship with our children.

We have a big task but it is God that works in us to will and to act according to His good purpose.

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SPF 047: Dealing With Sin in our Children

It’s not secret our children sin. But how do we respond to their sinful nature as their mothers? How do we not grow wearing in their instruction? Today is all about three motivations behind why we should desire to help our children in the area of sin. And it’s not so we can finish a whole cup of coffee without a single reheat.

This is Part 1 in a two part series.

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The SHORT Book

Arthur Hildersham gave three sermons about dealing with sin in our children and it's all in a little book. It's filled with wisdom and biblical Truth to help us diligently instruct and teach our children and deal with their sin - the very thing that separates them from God!

Dealing with Sin in Our Children
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By Arthur Hildersham

Our Motivation to Deal with Sin in our Children

1. In regard for our children - We are motivated to deal with their sin out of compassion for their eternal soul and for their joy in the Lord. For their is no one on earth who a child is more connected with, than his or her parents.

2. In regard for ourselves - Our souls should be greatly distressed at the condition of our children’s souls. So it is a comfort and a peace that we share and teach the Gospel of Jesus Christ and ask Him to open their eyes- to see their nature healed of and saving grace covering their souls.

3. Out of duty to God - We have an authority, one whom we are accountable to. He’s given us quite the trust - precious children. But not only has He given us a trust but a charge concerning our children:   that they are born to us from God and for God therefore God has charged us educate them and bring them up for His glory.

Mamas need to be Good Forgivers

We have to remember Ephesians 4:32 as much as they do “Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

We need to be good forgivers and we need to be faithful diligent mothers to keep believing God’s good Truth of this ministry of dealing with sin in our kids.

Additional Resources

Dr. Joel Beeke has 62 sermons on sermon audio on children - it has something for everyone! Look at these topics:

  • Teaching Your Children How To Read the Bible
  • Training Our Children in Godly Living
  • How to Train Children to Respect their Mother and Father
  • Building Convictions in Your Children
  • Preparing Our Children to Leave Home

Listen for free here:  Sermon Audio - Joel Beeke

Shepherding a Child's Heart
$8.87
By Tedd Tripp
Instructing a Child's Heart
By Tedd, Margy Tripp

SPF 046: The Myth of Neutrality - Is there "middle" ground?

Neutrality is a myth. But the world wants you to believe the lie that there is middle ground, a safe zone, a compromise. Tomato Tomato - But that’s all a lie and today we are going to unravel this myth and talk about three essential things in developing a biblical worldview.  

 

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Neutrality is a Myth

There is no one neutral. We know this because Jesus says in Matthew 12:30, "Whoever is not with me is against me, and whoever does not gather with me scatters.”

James 4:4 says, "You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God."

There is a for God and against God.

There is fearing the Lord and not fearing the Lord.

Everyone has a worldview

Everyone has a worldview - it’s the lens through which we interpret and understand the world and our lives; it’s the reason behind what we do; it’s our belief system that is they why behind our what.

Our worldview is either biblical or worldly.

The Worldly Worldview rooted in Secular humanism:

secular humanism is by definition "an outlook or system of thought attaching prime importance to human rather than divine or supernatural matters. Humanist beliefs stress the potential value and goodness of human beings, emphasize common human needs, and seek solely rational ways of solving human problems." (merrium webster dictionary)

Secular Humanism seen in the Bible - Romans 1:18-32

We need to heed Colossians 2:6-8:

"Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him, 7 rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving. See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits[a] of the world, and not according to Christ. We are either rooted in Christ or rooted in empty deceit and human tradition."

Three Essential Truths to Develop a Biblical Worldview

It starts with knowing God.

  1. God is Creator - Genesis 1,2, Isaiah 40, Romans 1
  2. God is Most High - Romans 11
  3. God is the Divine Providence - Eccl 3:14

Write those three beliefs out - teach them to yourself - and to your children. Find verses that correspond with them. They are foundational to our worldview. From those truths found in scripture will begin to flow the reason for the life we live and have implications on ETERNITY.

Voddie Baucham said in regards to worldview:

"Scripture overrides and over arches everything unless we are actively intent on conforming our worldview to Scripture, what happens is we allow scripture to be conformed by our worldview. and we re-read things and try to make them fit instead of asking ourselves “why am I committed to this position in the first place? what is it that’s making me committed to this position in the first place?”

Recommended Resources

 

Total Truth - Nancy Pearcy

An incredible tool in understanding and developing the Biblical Worldview.

 

Voddie Bauchum Sermons on Worldview:

Sermon Audio Biblical Worldview

Sermon Audio The God Who Created Everything

The Gospel Centered Life - Thune / Walker

This is my favorite study to help develop our foundational beliefs about sin, repentance, Jesus and purpose. I love it.

The Gospel-Centered Life: Study Guide with Leader's Notes
$13.12
By Robert H. Thune, Will Walker

 

 

 

SPF 045: The Necessity of Biblical Faithfulness in the Grit of Everyday

There is a necessary faithfulness to motherhood, to marriage, to our places of ministry, that will endure the grit of every day. It shows our allegiance, our steadfastness to the Glory of God. Today we are talking about some hallmarks of faithfulness and how they impact our daily roles and responsibilities.

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Three Hallmarks of Biblical Faithfulness

 "There is a necessary faithfulness to motherhood, to marriage, to our places of ministry, that will endure the grit of every day. It shows our allegiance, our steadfastness to the Glory of God.” - Lauren Hlushak

There are the highs and lows of life, but inbetween there is there every day grit. Where you just have to get ‘er done. Where there are little joys and little set backs, where there has to be dinner, encouragements, little lessons of hope and truth, and a whole lot of grace and repentance.

The grit can wear us out. It’s like sand in the shoe - it can be really irritating after awhile unless we understand that that faithfulness is an unrelenting drive to glorify God. 

1. Believe what the Bible says about God - His existence, His character, His work.

2. Endurance in the Truth rather than the fleetingness of feelings.

3. Live by faith and not by sight.

Our Hope in Faithfulness

  • God is faithful 2 Timothy 2:13 “if we are faithless, he is faithful for he cannot deny himself.”
  • Faithfulness is a fruit of the Spirit so we can grow in it! Galatians 5:22

Favorite Resources

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SPF 044: Four Graces that Comfort in Times of Grief

I little life update, and a marker of grace. I’m sharing with all my SPF friends and listeners four gifts of grace during a time of grief in miscarriage.

Four Graces of Comfort


Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
— Hebrews 4:16

Grace No. 1: The Living and Active Word of God

God's Word points to His plan and purpose of His Glory and what He has done for us!

Read: Psalm 103

Grace No. 2: Perspective and Thanksgiving

God gives us perspective in times of grief.

Read: Colossians 3:15-17

Grace No. 3: Community

God uses the Body of Christ to provide comfort.

Read: 2 Corinthians 1

Grace No. 4: Sovereign Joy in Sovereign Pain

God uses sovereign pain in our lives to advance the Gospel and that is a joyful thing.

Read: Philippians 1

If you love God for what He gives you, you’ll hate God for what He takes away
— Benham Brothers

SPF 043: Turning to the Lord - Three Lessons from Ezra

God is a Sovereign God who has graciously given us clear and good instructions for our living. The book of Ezra demonstrates these two Truths so well, I just had to share some history and some encouragement to hide in our hearts. The days are long but the years are short. Let us not drift away.

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Three Lessons From Ezra

1. God makes things happen according to His Will

The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it wherever he will. Proverbs 21:1

2. The enemies of God are enemies of God and will be our enemies too

Romans 5:10 - we are enemies of God before Christ

1 Corinthians 15 - God is putting all enemies under the feet of Christ

John 15:18-25 - If you are of the world, the world will love you

1 Peter 2:18 - endure when we suffer for God

1 corinthians 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.

1 Peter 5:9 Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world.

3. God’s Word shows us our sin and sin must be called sin for forgiveness to be known

Ezra 10:10 "break faith" is what sin is - not believing who God is and entrusting ourselves to the world instead.

We need to come before God with humble hearts.

What’s the worldly call in your life? What’s calling out to you?

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Books for your Consideration

The Gospel Centered Life

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The Gospel-Centered Life: Study Guide with Leader's Notes
$12.25
By Robert H. Thune, Will Walker

Heralds of the Reformation

If you liked the book Radiant - you'll love this book! Rich church history of the saints who persevered in the midst of persecution to see the Word of God and the grace of God reach people. (*affiliate link)

 

 

 

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SPF 042: Cultivating Joy Even in Struggles

Joy is an uncontrolled hope in the God who Is. Joy delights in God and His ways, and can be present no matter the circumstances. This sounds very appealing, but how do we cultivate this heart of joy? Today we are talking about joy, the struggles, and a few examples that will help us understand it all a little better. 

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Check out this episode where I talk with Emily about how the Word of God has blessed me in many practical ways throughout my life.

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Joy of the Lord

The joy of the Lord begins with abiding in Christ - John 15

Joy is a fruit of the Spirit - Galatians 5:22

What Do Joyful People Do?

  • Joyful people share the Gospel - Matthew 28
  • Joyful people have fellowship with others - 1 John 1:7
  • Joyful people delight in what God delights in - Psalm 103
  • Joyful people are thankful - 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
  • Joyful people serve - Romans 12
  • Joyful people worship and sing to the Lord - Colossians 3

The Struggles and Solutions

There are struggles that can steal our joy but the Bible gives solutions:

  • Complacency / Repentance Romans 3:1-3
  • Fear of Man / Fear of God 2 Samuel 6, Psalm 112:1
  • Pain (emotional and physical) / eternal perspective Luke 22, Hebrews 12:1-2
  • Anger and Bitterness / Repentance Psalm 37:8

Bible Examples and Personal Study

Read John 4 and Philippians 4 at these two examples of contentment and joy. What is the source of joy?

What are some of your struggles with joy? What is the biblical solution?

Resources

What is Biblical Counseling - Interview with Isabella - Episode 33

The Woman Who Fears the Lord - Episode 41

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Counseling the Hard Cases

A great book to give us wisdom as we make disciples and come across hard issues.

Virtuous

A great little read on virtues of Christian women.

 

 

 

 

SPF 041: The Woman Who Fears the Lord

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Today we are talking about the fear of the Lord, what it produces in our lives and be spurred on and encouraged by some stories of women who feared the Lord and thus were a great influence in the advancement of Christianity. 

What is the Fear of the Lord?

Knowing the holiness, awesomeness, supremity of God and responding with reverent fear of who He is and who we are.

  • God is the uncaused cause
  • God has always existed
  • God created everything that ever was or is or will bee
  • God has supreme power and authority - including over our bodies AND our souls
  • Isaiah was full of dread in the presence of the Holy God
  • Job put his hands over his mouth after questioning God and realizing Job was made from dust
  • Perfect love casts out fear because fear has to do with punishment.
  • We don't have to fear eternal punishment if Jesus has forgiven our sins

Scriptures to read:

Isaiah 6:1-6

Job 38-42

1 John 4

Hebrews 2:1-4

Check out the Salt and Light Podcast Episode on the Fear of the Lord:

Episode 31 Salt and Light

Good Fruits that come from the Fear of the Lord

  1. The fear of the Lord produces a God-centered Worldview Colossians 1:16, Acts 17:24-27
  2. The fear of the Lord produces an awareness of sin 2 Corinthians 7:1
  3. The fear of the Lord produces wisdom Proverbs 9:10
  4. The fear of the Lord fuels our evangelism 1 Corinthians 5:11
  5. The fear of the Lord frees us from the fear of man Proverbs 29:25, Psalm 56:11

Women in History who Feared the Lord

On this podcast episode I read portions from two chapters out of the book "Radiant - 50 Remarkable Women in Church History" by Richard Hannula

Please grab a copy and be encouraged and spurred on by these women who loved the Lord and feared Him alone.

Stories we discussed:

Perpetua - Early Church / 181-203 / martyred for her faith in Christ

Margaret Nisbet - Reformation / 1635-1683 / persecuted for her faith and exiled

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SPF 040: Three Biblical Instructions for Raising Godly Children

The mother’s calling. The Bible not only tells us of the blessedness of mothering but also gives some clear instructions on how to do it. Today we are going to look at the big picture of motherhood that will help us run this mothering race with perseverance and look at 3  instructions for mother’s in the Word of God.

Big Picture Scriptures for Mothering

  • Psalm 127
  • Psalm 128
  • Proverbs 31:10-31
  • Proverbs 14:1

"The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down." Proverbs 14:1

Three Biblical Instructions for Mothers

  1. Be learners and doers of the Word - Titus 2:3-5, Isaiah 50:4
  2. Instruct our children in the ways of the Lord - Ephesians 6:4, Deuteronomy 6:4-11
  3. Discipline our children to teach about the gospel, authority, and for your children to grow wise - Hebrews 12:5-7, Proverbs 29:15

Who can mother?

The vision of motherhood is greater than our own children. The essence of motherhood is about revealing God to the world - as all things are. The world is waiting to know the caring heart of God.

"Every woman can blossom as a mother, wither she gives birth to her own children or not. All she needs to do is allow the nursing instinct that God has put within her by divine creation to flow from her life.” - Nancy Campbell The Power of Motherhood

Examples of mothering others:

  • 1 Timothy 5:10
  • Proverbs 31
  • Romans 16:13

For God and Through His Grace

There is no perfect mother. We mother for the glory of God and through His grace. There is forgiveness when we fall short and grace when it's difficult, and joy when we rely on God. Mothering is a sanctifying work completed with diligence through the power of Christ.

Recommended Resources

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Praise Her in the Gates - Nancy Wilson

A very practical read through biblical motherhood. Sick days, holidays, education - she covers it all. Some of the content may challenge our worldview, but I encourage you to use is as an opportunity to study God's Word on the topics!

Shepherding a Child's Heart - Tedd Tripp

This book laid foundational biblical principles about discipline for me and my husband. I was challenged and humbled by my view of what discipline is and why it matters. I learned how to share the Gospel with my children through this book.

Shepherding a Child's Heart
$8.87
By Tedd Tripp

Radiant - 50 Remarkable Women in Church History - Richard Hannula

This has got to be one of my favorite, most compelling books I own. I am shocked and humbled by the faith of these women and how God used them to advance His Kingdom. We are truly living in blessed times because of the faith and perseverance of the ladies. I will be doing a podcast in the future about some of these women.

 

Instructing a Child's Heart - Tedd and Margy Tripp

This book is so practical in how to instruct our children in the ways of the Lord. Tedd and Margy give great examples and remind us of the foundational truths of why we do what we do as God-fearing parents.

Instructing a Child's Heart
$11.47
By Tedd Tripp, Margy Tripp

The Power of Motherhood - Nancy Campbell

This is an intensive workbook that takes you through Scriptures about all areas of motherhood and femininity, including things like birth control and pregnancy. I have not yet worked through the entire workbook and so I cautiously leave this link here - but wanted to share it because I referenced it in today's show. I caution you to take things you have questions about to the Word of God and to your husband and to your pastor. If anything this is an excellent book to help us look through all areas of womanhood and discover God's purpose, desires, and plans.

iTunes University - Free listen to the book being taught by Tedd Tripp

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